Filters: Looking for Love and the Transformative Process of Getting to Know Ourselves

Sometimes in life—and especially in our communication with others—we feel we’re not expressing our true, authentic selves. With some people, it’s easier to be ourselves. With others, something feels blocked or filtered.

There are times when we carry a feeling or truth in our heart, but when we try to express it, it comes out differently—less clear, less honest, or somehow distorted. 
This happens because we communicate through filters.

These filters are layers that make up what we might call the lower ego. 
They range from our outer appearance and social roles to our name, background, ethnicity, and cultural history. They also include where we grew up, who our friends and family are, our profession, where we live, and what we own.

All of these aspects wrap around us like veils or identities, acting as filters through which we express ourselves—and present who we think we are to the world.

Living Through the Filter

Some people are more invested in these filters than others. 
Most of us, however, live as the filter itself, rather than from our authentic self.

These filters create a kind of social world among themselves. 
Even within close relationships—like family units—unique layers and dynamics are built, forming patterns and filters specific to that group.

Filters want to survive, and they live through our interactions and relationships.
 Each connection with another person gives rise to a unique set of filters. That’s why we behave differently depending on who we’re with.

Some filters strengthen certain bonds and relationships. 
But there comes a time when we begin to recognise that these filters are not who we truly are.

That’s when the inner work begins: the process of getting to know these filters, integrating them, taming them—not to destroy or deny them, but to consciously work with them.

The Named Ego

Our named ego is the part of us we usually identify with—our name, our story.

For example: “My name is Alix.”
Around this name, we build a narrative: what we do, where we come from, our dreams and ambitions, our appearance, and how we present ourselves to others.

The named ego strongly identifies with genetic lineage, family background, and cultural environment—for example, “I grew up in South London” or “I come from Cornwall.”

This lower ego seeks meaning and connection through the outer world. 
At its root, it longs for love, to be seen, and to be accepted.

The Unnamed Ego

The unnamed ego is something far deeper. 
It can be understood through the unique individual expression of our immune system, which arises from the innermost core of the body—the red bone marrow of the axial skeleton.

This part of us has no outer appearance, and we’re often not consciously aware of it in everyday waking life.
 It does not draw from our genetics or environment. Rather, it is a pure, unique essence—our true authenticity.

The higher ego (unnamed) is not shaped by cultural boundaries or societal expectations. 
It breaks down division and integrates everything together as a unified cosmos.

The Meeting of the Egos

In modern culture, it is the named ego that is emphasised and valued.
When the named ego cannot perform or express itself, we are often seen as “unwell” or “not functioning.”

As we've seen, the lower ego—our named self—is deeply entangled with relationships and the outer world.
 For the egos to meet and work together through our will, the lower ego must first learn to turn its gaze inward.

It must ask: 
Who am I without my outer identifications?

This kind of inward journey requires time away from social obligations. 
It’s a period of deep reflection—a test of true self-identity. 
Often, during this time, even well-meaning friends and family may not fully understand or support the process.

Sometimes, the higher ego rises to meet the lower ego. 
This can manifest through physical processes like fever, when the immune system activates and begins to break down old patterns—patterns imprinted through the nervous system and the outer world via the lower ego.

We see these patterns everywhere: in posture, in the double helix of our DNA, in the stories we tell about our lives (for further information on these patterns, please refer to my previous journal: Patterns of the Living Body: From Postural/Fascial Patterns to Biographical Life Patterns. The Body Tells Our Story).

The meeting of the egos is something sacred.
 It usually unfolds gradually, through the phases of a lifetime (for further depth in these phases, please refer to my previous journal: Life Phases: Transforming Body Vitality into Conscious Wisdom Through the Unfolding of the Inner Human Microcosmos).

Finding True Love

In this meeting, the filters of the lower ego finally encounter what they’ve been longing for: 
the unconditional love of the higher ego.

This love—always present, always patient—brings peace and true unconditional acceptance for all of our layers and filters of the lower (named) ego.

With this realisation, the lower ego's filters—once sources of confusion or distortion—begin to shine with true happiness and stable joy in the light of acceptance.

The two egos are able to work together in the world from a place of authentic love.

This marks the beginning of a new becoming: 
a fully integrated human being—no longer afraid of life, but full of love for it.